Posted: Tue Aug 30, 2005 1:18 pm
Hello Lily
Welcome back!!
I would say that this is a completely safe place to talk and share your thoughts and feelings. The guys that use this site are all like minded people, we have one big thing in common (our love of Tobago of course!!) and we share that through this site. When we hear of others suffering, we send out one big group hug.
Friends and family will suprise you (in a nice and good way I mean). Like I said, when my dad was diagnosed, he kept it from ALL the family for a long time - he was embarrassed about it, upset, ashamed - I imagine all those feelings that only people who go through this will feel. When mum and dad finally told us, they were so relieved as it meant they no longer carried the 'secret' alone and a weight was lifted off their shoulders. We were then able to support them, talk with them and just be there.
I have a friend who also suffered about three years ago. It's also hard being on the receiving end of this sort of news, how do you react? There is no right or wrong way. My friend is fine now - all clear. My dad is on medication and his condition is controlled but will never go away.
I suppose what I am saying is that only you will know those nearest and dearest to you, and when and if and how you chose to tell them is deeply personal. We can all support you on here with words, but only you will know the right thing to do out in the real world and the human touch and the closeness you get from loved ones cannot be beaten. I am sure there are those closest to you that you have confided in already. Take your strength from those. And, if you don't want to tell everybody, then you simply don't have to. If people feel 'passed over', well, it's not a competition and if you have those feelings, then stick with your instinct.
Whatever you do, it will be the right thing - FOR YOU.
Please still come back for chats on here, we're all looking out for you!!
Take care Lily Mel - Lots of good, positive thoughts and wishes winging their way over to you right now!!!
Welcome back!!
I would say that this is a completely safe place to talk and share your thoughts and feelings. The guys that use this site are all like minded people, we have one big thing in common (our love of Tobago of course!!) and we share that through this site. When we hear of others suffering, we send out one big group hug.
Friends and family will suprise you (in a nice and good way I mean). Like I said, when my dad was diagnosed, he kept it from ALL the family for a long time - he was embarrassed about it, upset, ashamed - I imagine all those feelings that only people who go through this will feel. When mum and dad finally told us, they were so relieved as it meant they no longer carried the 'secret' alone and a weight was lifted off their shoulders. We were then able to support them, talk with them and just be there.
I have a friend who also suffered about three years ago. It's also hard being on the receiving end of this sort of news, how do you react? There is no right or wrong way. My friend is fine now - all clear. My dad is on medication and his condition is controlled but will never go away.
I suppose what I am saying is that only you will know those nearest and dearest to you, and when and if and how you chose to tell them is deeply personal. We can all support you on here with words, but only you will know the right thing to do out in the real world and the human touch and the closeness you get from loved ones cannot be beaten. I am sure there are those closest to you that you have confided in already. Take your strength from those. And, if you don't want to tell everybody, then you simply don't have to. If people feel 'passed over', well, it's not a competition and if you have those feelings, then stick with your instinct.
Whatever you do, it will be the right thing - FOR YOU.
Please still come back for chats on here, we're all looking out for you!!
Take care Lily Mel - Lots of good, positive thoughts and wishes winging their way over to you right now!!!
